You know your child worries and puts pressure on themselves.
They can hold it together at school and usually in company of others.
They’d probably be mortified if any of their friends saw them in the middle of a meltdown or if they overheard you discussing it with your friends.
But it has to come out. And it does. In the comfort and safety of your home, with you witness to the distressing behaviour that accompanies the emotional outburst. Tears, shouts, screams, sobs, loss of appetite, tantrum-like actions, throwing things, aggression to you and others, spiteful words to themselves and those that happen to be in the vacinity. Sound familiar?
You are desperate to help and you soothe and support in the best way you know. You try to fix the problem and where possible remove the thing that is causing distress (although deep down, you also know this is not truly solving the problem).
When your child worries and puts pressure on themselves, they are usually operating with the emotional visitor of FEAR. They are scared. Scared of the unknown, scared of the outcome, scared of failing, scared of not being ‘good enough’.
To help your child for the long-term it’s important to help them acknowledge and face the fear. This video gives you tips on how to talk about what’s going on with your child and how you can help.
Do let me know how it helps you and your child firstname.lastname@example.org